Wedding Reception Planning: Finding a Location

What should you look for in your reception site, aside from that sense of rightness you know you'll have the moment you see the perfect spot? Shopping for a site is a lot like finding a mate, a test you've obviously aced. You should be looking for the same sorts of things -- charm, personality, depth, more than just a pretty face (although looks do count!). Take along this list of what to look for -- in your head or on paper -- when you're ready to go scouting.

Roomy Fit
First, make sure the room is large enough to accommodate the number of people on your guest list. The space may look enormous when it's empty, but wedding essentials -- tables, chairs, a buffet, a bar, the band or DJ setup, the dance floor -- can take up a lot of space. Not to mention your guests, who'll need some elbow room. Even if you choose an outdoor site, you'll need ample room on the lawn, in the arboretum, or poolside. The best way to assess the size of a site? Ask to check out the place when another wedding is being set up. Of course, if you decide you must have your wedding at your favorite bar (the one with one bathroom, two booths, and three feet of floor space), you can always work backward and tailor your guest list to match.

Eating, Drinking & Partying Areas
There should be logical places within the space where guests can eat, drink, talk, and dance. See if you can envision where each activity would happen (especially if your ceremony will be there, too). If a room is too small to separate into sections accordingly, you may feel cramped. If it's shaped like an S or some other oddball figure, that could compromise your party's flow, as well. Also, note the locations of columns or other obstructions in the room -- will they block people's views?

Privacy, Please!
Privacy varies widely from place to place, as does the importance couples place on it. If you're having a daytime event in a public spot, such as a park or botanical garden, be prepared for strangers to trek past your party. They may even smile, wave, and come by to offer their good wishes. If this is okay with you (the more the merrier!), go for the park. If not, opt for a lovely lawn on a private estate. Or hold the reception at a restaurant or gallery that will post a CLOSED FOR PRIVATE PARTY sign. Be sure to inquire about available security at your site to keep gate-crashers at bay.

In addition, don't think that just because you're indoors, you're safe from uninvited guests. Banquet halls and hotels often hold more than one affair at a time. If there'll be other events going on simultaneously in rooms close to yours, you may hear karaoke-loving guests singing their hearts out to the sounds of Madonna through the walls or meet them over the hot-air dryers in the bathroom. If this bothers you, try to schedule your wedding when there won't be another one next door. If this is impossible, visit the site on a dual-party night and see how the sound carries and whether there really are any major people problems -- before you make a decision.

The site doesn't have to be done in the exact colors as your planned decorations, but it shouldn't clash or conflict with your party's mood or theme.

Seeing the Light
Light can make -- or break -- the mood. If you're marrying during the day, make sure your hall has plenty of windows. Who wants to spend six hours in a dark room when the sun is shining? If it's an evening affair, make sure the room's not too dim -- or that the lighting can be controlled for the big entrance, dinner, and dancing. If you're marrying outdoors, say, at dusk, will you be able to set up candles if necessary?

Try to visit the site at the same time of day that you've chosen for your wedding. Even if the space looks swell by candlelight, you may be surprised by the sight of that 20-year-old carpet during the day. You'll also miss a chance to see how sunlight streaming through floor-to-ceiling windows completely transforms the room, if you check it out only in the evening.

A Great View
What will your guests look at (when they're not gazing at you or smiling for the videographer)? Whether it's your city skyline, a stunning vista of rolling mountains beyond the windows, or the crashing sea on the sand behind you, exceptional locations are always a feast for the eyes. If there's no view per se, look to a place's decor or architectural details: Picasso prints on the walls, fine Persian rugs on the floors, period furniture in the corners, or an amazing crystal chandelier as the room's centerpiece all give your reception site that something extra.

The Right Color
If you're considering a certain theme and color palette for your party -- say, a Victorian tea done in pink, green, and gold -- that brown shag carpet is really going to wreck the effect. The site doesn't have to be done in the exact colors as your planned decorations, but the walls, carpets, chairs, and curtains shouldn't clash or conflict with your party's mood or theme. If you want a spring wedding brunch, look for a space that's done in light (perhaps pastel) colors or florals; black walls and red leather booths just don't say "spring." But they'll look great if you're going medieval (or 1980s, for that matter). For classic elegance, consider a room done in neutrals or black and white.

Ample Outlets
Be sure to take a thorough cruise around the room to see if it has lots of places to plug things in -- especially if you're partying in a place that's not a regular spot for hosting weddings. Your main user of outlets will be the entertainment crew. Take note of where the outlets are; if their location will force your DJ to spin records in the bathroom, make sure she or he has plenty of extension cords.

Good Vibrations
If the place is too echoey, it could give some weird reverb to the band, not to mention make it difficult for guests to hear one another talking. A tile or wood floor, for example, will amplify sounds, while a thick carpet will tend to muffle them. Check out the room's sound quality during an event. And tailor your music to the acoustic conditions. A jazz combo will sound better at an intimate art gallery than a 14-piece orchestra would (not to mention the fact that it takes up less floor space).

A Place to Park
Make sure the site is near a good parking lot, garage, or big, empty (safe) street where it's legal to park. If parking is a problem, look for other ways to get everyone to the party. Can a shuttle bus or vans take guests from the ceremony to the reception? Inadequate parking isn't necessarily a deal breaker, but it may mean spending more time and money to figure out a viable vehicular alternative.

source by : www.wedding.theknot.com

antique-unique (receptions)

Sweetheart Doves Votive Holder Centerpiece
This beautiful centerpiece features a votive candle holder which is suspended between two panels of beveled glass.

Cathys Concepts Hearts Desire Toasting Flutes
It's your wedding day: Love is in the air...
hearts are bursting...
and every detail evokes the joy of your union.
Toast to that joy with these clear glass flutes.

Crystal Knife

Contemporary Couple Cake Topper

Not impressed with the standard bride-and-groom-standing-stiffly cake topper?

Show your moves with this glass topper featuring a dancing couple.

Antique Pewter Place Card Frame

Antiqued pewter frames display your place cards in style



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BORIS BECKER’S and “Sharlely”Lilly” wedding in St Moritz

Three-time Wimbledon champion Boris Becker continues to strengthen ties with Switzerland, as he holds his wedding ceremony in St Moritz on Friday. The 41-year old is to marry 32-year-old Dutch model Sharlely “Lilly” Kerssenberg. Becker is resident in Zug where he runs a sports management and marketing business. His charity foundation, based at the same address, will also hold a sporting event for kids in Zurich in July.

Boris has two biracial sons, Noah and Elias, with his first wife Barbara Feltus, whom he divorced in 2001. Feltus made out like a bandit with a $14.4 million alimony settlement, a luxury seaside condo and full custody of their two sons.

Former tennis star Boris Becker is to marry his Dutch girlfriend Lilly Kerssenberg in the luxury Swiss resort of St Moritz later this week. On June 12, the three-time Wimbledon champion is set to go to the altar for his second wedding.

“Sharlely”Lilly” take a bit of a risk when it comes to choosing her wedding day attire.
Lilly Kerssenberg tied the knot with beau Boris Becker today, she turned her back on a designer wedding gown and instead wore a chic white pants suit with jacket, vest top and trousers.

Her groom, wearing a similar ensemble - but in black pinstripe - admitted he was nervous before the pair said their vows at the Segantini Museum in St Moritz, Switzerland.

The 40-year-old tennis player's sons, Noah and Elias, were in attendance for the I do's, as were well-known figures such as the Prince Albert of Monaco.


But Becker and Kerssenberg - a Dutch model - had been involved in the past, and the tennis star explained on German television that he realized he was meant to be with his ex.

Becker seems more than willing to bring his private life into the public sphere these days. In fact, the groom proposed to his girlfriend on live TV as well, while their wedding day will be broadcast on commercial network RTL.

BORIS BECKER’S WEDDING PICTURES: A FAMILY AFFAIR

German Tennis player Boris Becker, left, and his new bride Sharlely ‘Lilly’ Kerssenberg
are pictured after their marriage ceremony in Switzerland on June 12 2009


Elias the younger son of German tennis legend Boris Becker,
third left, is pictured with some family members and friends.


Actors Boris Kojoe and Nicole Ari Parker-Kodjoe were in attendance and took a picture with Becker’s mom.

source: onewed.com and blackcelebritykids.com

Wedding Vows & Readings: 20 Tips for Writing Your Own Wedding Vows

So you thought it'd be great to write your own vows, but now a healthy dose of writer's block (not to mention fear of embarrassing yourself) has hit you squarely on the h

ead. Don't know how to transform your heavy, life-altering, feelings into a string of coherent words? You're not alone -- but don't worry, your goal is within reach: Just take it one word at a time

. Here's the homework you need to do (and the questions you should ask) to make your wedding words letter-perfect.

Prep Step A: Get clearance

Make sure your officiant will accept personalized vows. Catholic and Episcopal congregations, for instance, may require you to recite all or part of the traditional vows, though in most cases that's left to the officiant's discretion. Remember: Even the most accommodating officiant will want to review your words in advance.

Prep Step B: Make a plan

You need to tackle the logistics to make sure you and your fiance are both on the same page: Are you each going to write your own, or will you write them together? Will you show them to each other before the ceremony?

Knot Note: If you're feeling shy, opt to write your vows together and even recite the exact same promises. If there's more you wish to say, privately, say it in the cards you exchange on the day of your wedding or on your honeymoon.

Prep Step C: Create your outline

An outline can help to establish a structure that you both stick to. For example, plan to first talk about how great your fiance is, then about how great you are as a couple, then about what you're vowing to each other.

Prep Step D: Find your voice

What overall tone do you want: Humorous and touching? Poetic and mushy? It's your call -- the most important thing is that your vows ring true and sound like they're from your heart.

Prep Step E: Cut it down

Finally, pick a length and stick to it by keeping the mantra pithy and to the point in mind -- anything longer than a minute or so, and no matter how gorgeous your prose, the audience will start to squirm.

Ready to Write!

What exactly do you say? To help you think of sentiments to include, take turns answering this list of questions. When you're done, look through your answers for the phrases that best capture your intended message and incorporate them into the structure of your vows.

What did you think when you first saw him/her? Start from the beginning -- you didn't want to go out and now you're grateful your friends dragged you out? How to use: When we met at __________, I knew __________.

When did you realize you were in love? The more specific you are able to be, the more touching the story. Was it when he helped you bring your sick puppy to the vet? How to use: I knew I was in love when ____________. Don't underestimate the power of humor. Throw in at least one more playful sentiment (When she recited Don Mattingly's RBI record...).

What do you have now that you didn't have before you met? Focus on the heart and head, not material possessions. Has she taught you to appreciate beauty differently? Has he helped you learn to savor creating a home-cooked meal? How to use: Before I met you, I ___________. Now I ___________.

How has your worldview changed? Life has likely gotten better since the two of you joined forces, so tell everyone about it. How to use: Because of you, I see the world __________. Having trouble? Think about the new things you've tried with your mate -- what have you experienced together that you never would have on your own?

What do you miss most when you're apart? This will probably be something mundane but powerful -- what about his smile first thing in the morning, or the way she puts out your lucky mug for your morning coffee? How to use: You are such a part of me that when you're gone, I __________.

Where do you see yourselves in 10 years? 20 years? 40 years? Go deeper than Happily married in a big house. What are your long-term hopes, dreams, and goals? How to use: I look forward to __________, laughing and __________ as we __________.

Is there a line from a movie, song, or poem that says it all? It's okay to borrow, as long as it's not too much of a cliche (we're sorry, but You complete me is suffering from overuse). Instead modify something familiar to personalize. How to use: Subtly. I watch you ________, and I think to myself, what a wonderful world.

Do parts of the traditional vows resonate with you? Maybe you're not so sure about the obey part, but can you really go wrong with love, cherish, and...? How to use: Try I promise to cherish and honor you ____________, but add a time frame and funny reference for levity: ...all the days of my life, especially when curled up on the couch with takeout.

Can you think of a funny or touching experience that put your partner in a new light? The way he played with your little cousin or helped your grandmother up the stairs showed you that under his macho exterior is a wittle, bitty bunny wabbit and you love him for it. How to use: When you ____________, I saw you for the _____________ person you are. And that made me want to ____________.

Is there a harrowing experience that strengthened your bond? This one rides tandem with #9. How to use: See #9.

What goals and values do you both have? Stating your common bond may just expose your inner Wordsworth. These ties -- whether your shared faith or your mutual love of wine -- will also help demonstrate why you're a perfect pair. How to use: We share ___________, so together we can ___________.

What about him/her inspires you? What is it about your fiance that you'd like to improve in yourself? What do you most respect about your partner? How to use: Your ___________ has shown me how to be___________.

What promise can you make to codify your devotion? Here's an opportunity to personalize your vows -- many couples pledge their endless love, but how many promise to take the dog out in the morning, even in the snow? How to use: I promise to always ___________.

How will you change together? You know what your goals are -- think about the steps the two of you will need to take together to reach them. How to use: I look forward to ___________ as we __________.

What metaphor (or simile) would capture your love? Think of something that describes or defines your love: Is it strong like a castle? Peaceful like a mountain stream? How to use: Our love is like a ___________ because it ___________.

Why are you entering the bond of marriage? Think about why marrying your fiance is so special. You may be surprised how the answer leads you to the perfect words. How to use: To me, marriage is ___________. With you, it's ___________.

What will keep your marriage strong? Find the bedrock of your relationship. What makes your relationship tick? Is it your resilience? Your shared sense of humor? How to use: Even when ___________, we will have ___________.

What are you most looking forward to about married life? The wedding is just the beginning. How to use: I look forward to ___________ as we embark on ___________.

What do you expect out of married life? Defining your expectations will help you make and keep promises. Think about your dreams, and what you'll have to vow to do to make them come true. How to use: I know our marriage will ___________ and I vow to ___________.

What words do you associate with love? Make a list of romantic terms so you can avoid overusing love -- too many repetitions dilute its power. How to use: My devotion/adoration/ passion is ___________.

be succes

source by : www. wedding.theknot.com

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Wedding Cake History

The Wedding Cake

In Earlier times the wedding guests would supply the cakes by bringing a small bread or cake with them to the wedding.
These were stacked, as a sign of prosperity, so the bride and groom could kiss over them for good luck.
The bride and groom today cut the first slice of wedding cake as a symbol of unity.

Traditionally the top tier of the wedding cake is kept for their first anniversary or as a christening cake for their first child.

In roman times the tradition was to throw small wheat cakes at the bride, as a symbol of fertility.
This changed to breaking the wheat cakes over the bride’s head and the bride and groom would eat the crumbs.

Guests then scrambled for the pieces of Cake in hope to secure good luck for themselves
The European tradition in Wedding cakes is mostly white, as a symbol of purity.
Wedding cakes in other cultures are often more colourful.

The Grooms Cake

This cake has been around from the Middle Ages, usually dark, solid and much smaller than the Wedding Cake. It is traditional served at the reception besides the white-tiered Wedding Cake, making a beautiful contrast of colour, taste, texture and design.

A Grooms Cake is also packed into slices ahead of time for guests to take home and for others who could not attend, so they may celebrate the couple’s good fortune.
It is also said that if a single guest puts a piece of Grooms Cake under their pillow, they will dream of their future marriage partner.

Now wedding cakes come in a wide choice of shapes and colours, they are far removed from the traditional bread and cakes of long ago.

Wedding cakes can be designed in square, round, heart, oblong, diamond, rectangle shapes or even different combinations of shapes.

For a long time the traditional wedding cake was made from a rich fruit cake covered in marzipan and icing, more and more couples are opting for less traditional wedding cakes, having sponge tiers incorporated instead of fruit.

More and more couples are having a main themed cake with one or even two cutting tiers instead of the traditional tiered wedding cakes.

source by : www.cakesbyann.co.uk/

Wedding Traditions in Indonesia

Customary Engagement Etiquette in Indonesia

An Indonesian engagement could easily last for many years. During this time, ceremonial gift giving takes place between the bride and groom's families to strengthen their familiarity.


Indonesian Wedding Ceremony

An Indonesian wedding program is a very important event. Everyone that is even slightly acquainted with the bride and groom may be invited, and this could mean thousands of guests.

The majority of invited guests do not attend the actual ceremony, but it is considered rude to be invited to the wedding reception, to share in the joy of the newlyweds, and to not attend.

Wedding Reception Celebration
There is often an elaborate processional into the reception site, which consists of a long chain of flowers. Professional dancers perform traditional Indonesian dances, while family and guests await the arrival of the newlyweds.


It is customary for the traditional Indonesian bride and groom to greet each guest in a long receiving line, before the reception festivities can begin.

by: worldweddingtraditions.com

Wedding Tradisions in Indonesia :
Sundanese Wedding Ceremony
Karo Batak Wedding Ceremonies

Weddings in Greece How to get married in Greece

Greece makes a wonderful setting for your wedding, with a limitless selection of magical settings & scenic backdrops for your big day! Changes in the laws in the last few years have made it much easier to have a wedding in Greece so getting married on a beautiful Greek Island is now easier than ever.

Greece provides a wealth of historic architecture & ancient ruins for those who love culture. The climate & beaches provide a sun worshippers paradise, while couples who want nightlife & action will not be disappointed. There are so many diverse wedding locations across the Greek Islands & the Greek mainland that deciding where to get married in Greece is the biggest problem!

Greece & many Greek resorts provide a great location to combine a great holiday with a fantastic wedding. Most of the weddings are held in the islands of Santorini, Corfu, Mykonos and Rhodes where foreign weddings are more common because they are such popular tourist destinations.

It is possible to have a Greece wedding virtually any location, anywhere in Greece. Outdoor weddings, beach weddings, Church weddings & other religious weddings are all available. In Santorini, for instance, you can't find a setting more romantic then on the rim of a volcano with the sea 1000 feet below. It is custom, though optional, for weddings in Greece to take place at sunset because of the heat of summer plus after a sunset ceremony you can go directly to the reception of eating, drinking & dancing!

Legally it is relatively simple to marry in Greece but not as easy as 'Greek style' Cyprus - where marriage laws are simple.

Weddings in Greece are legal for couples from the US, UK, Ireland, Australia, New Zealand, Europe & most other countries. The paperwork required will depend upon where you are from and your personal circumstances. But it has got much easier to arrange than it once was.

If you want to do it on your own you will need to contact the president or mayor of the community for a civil wedding, or the head priest for a religious wedding. Some documents have to be translated such as your birth certificates. And follow the exact procedures that they will tell you.

Most couples opt to use a wedding company to help arrange their marriage for them but you can arrange your wedding yourself.

Quotes from couples married in Greece

'I just love Greek weddings, that's probably why I got married there! It was a great atmosphere, we had everything, the food, the dancing, the sunshine...everything.'
- Laura & Anthony, married in Greece Sept 2008

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Secrets of Married Men

Women are better at relationships, right?

Not so fast.

Relationship experts and students of evolutionary biology argue that women are endowed with superior skills for managing dyad dynamics. But let's take a look at that proposal more carefully. Can men be masters of relationship skills?

Consider the following men, not well known in the world of relationship literature: Eric A. Cornell, Wolfgang Ketterle, Carl E. Wieman. Not familiar to you? Then perhaps you'll recognize the names Kofi Annan, Secretary-General of the United Nations, or author Sir V.S. Naipaul. These are all names of Nobel Prize winners of 2001--three in Physics, and one each in Peace and Literature. In fact, last year all the Nobel Prizes, including those in medicine, economics and chemistry, went to men. A lucky year for fellows? Hardly. In the past decade, the Nobel Foundation granted prizes to only four women.

Men can master skills in the sciences, literature and leadership. It doesn't end there. Men have demonstrated excellence in endeavors from architecture to culinary arts. Is it such a leap of logic, then, to believe they can master relationship skills as well? My experience as a marriage therapist, and research on SecretsofMarriedMen.com, tell me that men have a wonderful aptitude at making a union last. Having a man's brain--a man's problem solving talents--is an asset, not a liability, for committed relationships.

Why would men seek to gain credit for achievement in this in this arena? After all, it would be easier to cede marriage-maintenance skills over to women. I, for one, would love to come home at the end of a workday and find my wife, Susan, has put all the pieces into place to make our relationship go smoothly. But Susan may have different ideas! I work on making the marriage better because I adore my wife, and want to do everything possible to fulfill her dreams. But it's not easy.

Let's look at the statistics. Despite their marriage vows to endure better or worse, women more likely to react to marital unhappiness by leaving. Wives precipitate two-thirds to three-quarters of all divorces and separations. They are more likely to express discontent-- the female raises 80% of all household arguments. Women are also more likely to criticize their spouses.

It's understandable that women express discontent in the home, as women traditionally, and statistically, have rule of the roost. According to Steven Nock, author of Marriage in Men's Lives, women do the lion's share of housework and social planning. So they have the right to raise household concerns. But each complaint they lodge puts the ball in the husband's court. Instinctually men shun these complaints by stonewalling or becoming defensive. When a husband responds by avoiding his wife, the quality of the marriage declines. The unsuccessful husband assumes his wife is a relationship expert, and reacts in kind to her harsh lead, thereby further contributing to marital discontent.

Statistics suggest that men husbands can counter their wives' discontent by becoming marriage experts themselves. 85% of the variance in whether a marriage succeeds or fails is based on the husband's actions and attitude. John Gottman, PhD, discovered that successful marriages involve husbands who resist immediate negative reactions to their wives' concerns. These men increase the odds of having a happy marriage by allowing themselves to accept the influence of their spouse. They recognize an opportunity to use their "man" skills to solve the problem. These husbands view marriage woes as they would any malfunctioning household item; they take it apart and try to fix it.

Clarke, a 30-year veteran of marriage, demonstrates these principles in a contribution to SecretsofMarriedMen.com. "When my wife asks me to do something, almost anything, my initial reaction used to be annoyance because I have lots of work to do, lots of things to do around the house, and lots of other bullsh-t reasons why not. However, most of what she asks me to do is actually quite reasonable, usually my responsibility, and I probably will end up doing it anyway. So, now I've trained myself to say 'yes' or 'no problem' as my initial response. This has contributed to less arguing and a better relationship."

For too long the Mr. Fix-it role has been the object of derision among women. Therapists see men's "tell-me-the-problem-and-I'll-tell-you-a-solution" approach as being insensitive to deeper issues affecting the relationship. The bottom line message of popular culture is: the thing men are best at-problem solving-serves no role in relationships.

Nonsense.

That's why I established a Web site and research base meant to honor men's approach to relationships and celebrate the ways we make marriage work. At http://www.SecretsofMarriedMen.com, men contribute confidential insights into their marriage experiences. (Women are also invited to contribute). I then compiled the information gathered on the site, and wrote The Secrets of Happily Married Men: Eight Ways to Win Your Wife's Heart Forever

The Secrets of Happily Married Men earns its title from two kinds of secrets. One is the secret that a man keeps from his wife. Not the dark sultry secret of an affair or off-shore bank account, but a restraint in sharing the details of his day to day thoughts and actions with his wife-inside and out of the marriage. He may hide romance strategies (like the man who keeps notations in a Palm Pilot to send his wife flowers weekly) or feelings (of vulnerability or shame). These are things that men may have learned, over time, to keep to themselves for the benefit of the marriage. Bobby is a good example of such a man. Married for just three years, he states: "In the past I have shared things about my past family problems with an expectation that she would understand where I am coming from. The response is unsympathetic or an argument is thrown back at me. So quite apart from my natural tendency to be more reflective than talkative, I find I clam up."

The Secrets of Happily Married Men also is about the secrets we men don't tell each other. Victor, for example, describes mastering his relationship with his wife without support from other married guys. "Women want you to listen and understand, not solve the problem. I'm a married man of 14 years and a survivor of many verbal battles with the opposite sex. I never shared my survival techniques with anyone." He has not studied from or taught other men about relationships. Yet he learned valuable insights which he shares with readers of the Web site: "When engaged in a disagreement, listen closely with your ears and make good eye contact for at least two to five minutes before you speak. This gives the impression of caring and concern, and gives time to think before you speak. Never make excuses or offer a solution before she is done speaking. Also, never leave the room before resolution is reached. I feel that if men could understand and perfect the above techniques, they would be much happier in their marriages."

Traditionally, men aren't educated in relationship skills. It is a long held truism that men don't buy relationship books. Even when an author pens words of advice for men, most editors politely decline the invitation to publish. Men's magazines, with few exceptions, avoid the vexing reality of relationships, reveling instead in the search for the perfect set of abs. Tightening our musculature, we are counseled, will insure that nubile women will lust after us. Similarly, "The Man Show" advises us on the best jobs to attract chicks. But what do we do once we marry them? Look at the periodicals and television directed to men-you won't see anything about that. Committed relationships end up being quite a bit more complicated than Maxim would have you believe. When it comes to marital duress, men interpret the media's silence as proof that such problems are unusual. SecretsofMarriedMen.com reveals marital strife is the rule, not the exception.

Bobby suffered from the misconception that marriage equals bliss. As he demonstrated in his approach to sharing hurts about his family, he came to SecretsofMarriedMen.com to teach other men of his experience. But, like others who visit the site, he learned he was not alone. "What a relief to realize I am not an alien from another planet! So I am not the only one whose wife complains that I don't talk enough, that I am shut down tight, that I lock away my emotions."

The Secrets of Happily Married Men advances beyond the conclusion that marital conflict is the norm. It helps men learn about marriage problems from each other, and it teaches men they can do something about it.

Next: Eight Ways to Win your Wife's Heart Forever

Dr. Scott Haltzman is a married man, living in suburbs outside Providence, Rhode Island. He is a graduate of Brown University, and received his medical degree from the Brown University Program in Medicine. He completed his psychiatric training and Chief Residency at Yale University. Dr. Haltzman has trained with world-renowned experts in the fields of couples and sexual therapy. He has published scientific articles and book chapters related to the field of psychiatry. He currently is the Medical Director of NRI Community Services in Woonsocket, Rhode Island.

Dr. Haltzman’s interest in the nature of the married relationship grows from observations made over years of providing individual and couple’s therapy. His research focuses on seeking out data to better help understand the relationship patterns of husbands and wives, and the techniques individuals use to advance the institution of marriage.

by Dr. Scott Haltzman

Bridal Show 2009

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2. Arizona's Biggest & Best Bridal Show
Date : June 7, 2009 (9.00-03.00)
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3. Diamonds and Pearls Bridal Show
Date : 7 June, 2009 - 7 June, 2009

4. Bridal Fairs in North Wales, Cheshire, Manchester, Liverpool, Lancashire & The Midlands
a. Anglesey

The Carreg Mon Hotel
Llanfair PG
Date: Sunday 13th September, 2009
Time(s): 11am - 4pm
Additional information:
Opportunity to win a £2,000 honeymoon.
Goody Bag for each bag that registers at the fayre
Telephone: 0845 009 5080

b. Cheshire

Winnington Park Recreation Club
Park Road, Northwich CW8 4EB
Date: Sunday 21st June, 2009
Time(s): 11am - 4pm

Additional information:
Two Fashion Shows,12.30 & 2.30 free raffle, free admission, professional singers, wedding cars. And many more. Sponsored by Elegance Wedding and Event Planners.

Telephone: 07969619051

c. Cranage Hall

Byley Lane, , Cranage, , Holmes Chapel, , Cheshire, , CW4 8EW
Date: Friday 26th June, 2009
Time(s): 6.30pm to 10.30pm

Additional information:
This is no ordinary bridal event! Red carpet entrance, paparazzi photos, flowing champagne - and that’s just when you arrive! Explore the magnificent grounds of Cranage Hall, meet the range of elite suppliers, get a good view of the professionally choreographed catwalk shows, enjoy the variety of wedding entertainers and tuck into the delicious Bar-B-Q and Hog Roast.
Couples with two left feet will have the chance to try some ballroom steps for that all-important ‘first dance’ and nervous speakers can get some top tips for those nerve-wracking speeches!
Bridal events have a tendency to focus purely on the bride and her female attendants however at the Cranage Bridal Evening we haven’t forgotten about the groom! The ‘Men’s den’ will be filled with grooming, clothing and gadgets and he can try his hand at archery and clay pigeon shooting in the grounds
The evening will end with a spectacular fireworks display by Blitz Fireworks.

Telephone: 07798 676024 or 07772 512756

d. Chester Racecourse

Chester Racecourse , Chester ,

Dates: Saturday 5th September, 2009 - Sunday 6th September, 2009

Time(s): 10am-4pm

Additional information:
Confetti Autumn 2009
Book now 0151 472 2570
Tickets £5 advance
Tickets £7 on the day

The Village Hotel, Cheadle

The Village Hotel, Cheadle Road, Cheadle , Cheshire, SK8 1HW

Date: Sunday 13th September, 2009

Time(s): 12.00-16.00

Additional information:
Two catwalk show at 1pm and 3pm with free admission and car parking.

Telephone: 0161 925 4289

e. Thornton Hall

Thornton Hall Hotel and Spa , Neston Road , Thornton Hough , Wirral , CH63 1JF

Date: Sunday 13th September, 2009

Time(s): 12.00-16.00

Additional information:
There will be two catwalk shows at 1pm and 3pm and admission is free.

Telephone: 0161 925 4289

f. Shrigley Hall

Shrigley Hall, Shrigley Park, Pott Shrigley, Cheshire, SK10 5SB

Date: Sunday 20th September, 2009

Time(s): 11.00-15.00

Additional information:
Two catwalk shows at 1pm and 3pm and £1 admission which includes car parking.

Telephone: 0161 925 4289

g. Chester Crowne Plaza

Chester Crowne Plaza, Trinity Street, Chester, CH1 2BD

Date: Sunday 27th September, 2009

Time(s): 12.00-16.00

Additional information:
Two catwalk shows at 1pm and 3pm and free admission which includes car parking.

Telephone: 0161 925 4289

h. Mere Golf & Country Club

Chester Road, , Mere, , Knutsford, , Cheshire , WA16 6LJ ,

Date: Sunday 27th September, 2009

Time(s): 11.00am - 4.00pm

Additional information:
2 x Catwalk Shows

Telephone: 01565 830155

g. Rookery Hall

Rookery Hall Hotel and Spa, Worleston, Nantwich, Cheshire, CW5 6DQ

Date: Sunday 27th September, 2009

Time(s): 12.00-16.00

Additional information:
Two catwalk shows at 1pm and 3pm and free admission which includes car parking.

Telephone: 0161 925 4289

h. The Chill Factore

The Chill Factore, Trafford Quays Leisure Village, Trafford Way, Manchester, M41 7JA

Date: Sunday 27th September, 2009

Time(s): 12.00-16.00

Additional information:
Two catwalk shows at 1pm and 3pm and free admission which includes car parking.

Telephone: 0161 925 4289

i. Cottons Hotel

Cottons Hotel, Manchester Road, Knutsford, Cheshire, WA16 0SU

Date: Sunday 4th October, 2009

Time(s): 12.000-16.00

Additional information:
Two catwalk shows at 1pm and 3pm and free admission which includes car parking.

Telephone: 0161 925 4289

j. Mottram Hall

De Vere Mottram Hall, Wilmslow Road, Mottram St Andrew, Prestbury, Cheshire, SK10 4QT

Date: Sunday 11th October, 2009

Time(s): 12.00 - 16.00

Additional information:
Two catwalk shows at 1pm and 3pm and freeadmission which includes car parking.

Telephone: 0161 925 4289

k. Arley Hall

Arley Hall and Gardens, Northwich, Cheshire, CW9 6NA

Date: Sunday 18th October, 2009

Time(s): 11.00-15.00

Additional information:
Two catwalk shows at 1pm and 3pm free admission which includes car parking.

Telephone: 0161 925 4289

l. Heaton House

Heaton House farm, Rushton Spencer, Macclesfield, Cheshire

Date: Sunday 18th October, 2009

Time(s): 11-5

Additional information:
celebrating out 10th anniversary in hosting weddings!
£2 entry

Telephone: 01260 226203

m. Macdonald Portal Hotel, Golf & Spa

Cobblers Cross Lane, Tarporley, Cheshire, CW6 0DJ

Date: Friday 1st January, 2010

Time(s): 1100-1600

Additional information:
x catwalk shows
A glass of bubbly and canapes on arrival
Preferred suppliers in attendance
Competitions

Telephone: 0844 879 9082

n. Macdonald Portal Hotel, Golf and Spa

Cobblers Cross Lane, Tarporley, Cheshire CW6 0DJ ,

Date: Tuesday 3rd May, 2011

Time(s): 11.00am - 4.00pm

Additional information:
Free Entry, Free Prize Draw & Goody Bag

Telephone: 0844 879 9082

o. Conwy

Kinmel Manor

St George, Abergele

Date: Sunday 27th September, 2009

Time(s): 11am - 4pm

Additional information:
Opportunity to win a £2,000 honeymoon.
Goody Bag for each bag that registers at the fayre

Telephone: 0845 009 5080

p. Denbighshire

Pavilion Theatre, Rhyl

Pavilion Theatre, , West Parade, , Rhyl , Denbighshire , LL18 3AQ

Date: Sunday 13th September, 2009

Time(s): 11.00 - 4.00

Additional information:
Wedding Fayre organised by Elegance.
A brand new Wedding fayre venue offering a wide variety of exhibitors.

Telephone: 07956613746

q. Lancashire

Rufford Old Hall

200 Liverpool Road , Rufford , Lancashire , L40 1SG

Date: Thursday 25th June, 2009

Time(s): 6 - 9pm

Additional information:
Plan your wedding in a unique setting with top local suppliers showcasing in a bespoke marquee

Telephone: 01704 823812

r. Liverpool

Sefton Park Palm House

Sefton Park Palm House , Sefton Park , Liverpool , L17 1AP

Date: Sunday 11th October, 2009

Time(s): 12noon - 4pm

Additional information:
Talk to the counties leading wedding experts, showcased at this beautiful wedding venue, they will help to plan your special day from start to finish. Whether you are planning a grand celebration with hundreds of guests or an intimate wedding with a handful of friends and family, these shows can help ensure that your day is one to remember. There will be two exciting catwalks shows at 1.00pm and 3.00pm and there will be live entertainment.

Free Admission and free carparking.

12noon - 4pm

Telephone: 0161 925 4289

s. Merseyside

Prescot Suites ( formerley Leisure Centre)

Warrington Road , Prescot , Merseyside , L35 5AD

Date: Sunday 27th September, 2009

Time(s): 11AM - 3PM

Additional information:
free parking, free entry, enter our prize draw to win a free wedding!

Telephone: 07758808924

t. West Midlands

The NEC

Birmingham , B40 1NT ,

Dates: Friday 9th October, 2009 - Sunday 11th October, 2009

Time(s): tbc

Additional information:
This show is your one stop wedding shop with everything you need for your big day.

Telephone: 0871 945 4502

u. Wrexham

Ramada Plaza Hotel

Ellice Way

Date: Sunday 6th September, 2009

Time(s): 11am - 4pm

Additional information:
Opportunity to win a £2,000 honeymoon.
Goody Bag for each bag that registers at the fayre
Telephone: 0845 009 5080

Get the Most Out of Bridal Shows

It’s almost that time of the year! Bridal Show season is just around the corner. Not surprising since 19% of all engagements take place in December. All other months are only 9% or less! (Source: Fairchild American Wedding Survey).

A Bridal Show is a great place to get started with your wedding plans. Held at various types of venues – including convention centers, banquet halls, even your local shopping mall -- they can be quite large (100 different vendors or more!) or much smaller, and more intimate (only 10-20 different vendors). But regardless of the size, the main purpose is still the same, you get a chance to take a sneak peek at the local professionals – see examples of their work, taste samples of cakes and foods, and collect vendor brochures and literature.

While tempting, now is not the time to get all of your planning done in a whirlwind of a few hours. You want to be a savvy shopper, and select just the right vendors for you. Before you go, here are some tips offered by Jean Neuhart, Professional Bridal Consultant, and owner of Weddings From The Heart, to make the trip easier, fun, and worthwhile.

Create a game plan. Which types of vendors you are most interested in? Are you looking for a DJ? Perhaps you still need a florist. Figure out the types of vendors you most want to see, then plan on visiting their booths first.

Things to bring: Pen and paper, (you’ll want to take notes). A tote bag (to carry all those flyers and brochures you’ll be picking up). Address labels (saves time filling out all those contest and door prize slips). Cash (to pay for admission and to purchase a light snack or beverage). Checkbook or credit card (in case you find the perfect vendor and want to put down a deposit).

Wear comfortable shoes. And if possible, leave your coat in the car. You’ll have enough to carry without having to lug around or wear a coat. And you’ll be that much happier if you’re comfortable. Also, wear clothing with pockets. When you come across a vendor that you especially want to remember, place his or her card in your pocket instead of in the tote bag where it can get mixed up with all of the other cards and flyers you’ll be getting.

Bring only one or two people with you. Have mom, your maid of honor, a bridesmaid, or fiancé come along. They can help you carry the brochures you’ve picked up, and you’ll have someone who knows you to bounce ideas off of. Just don’t bring a whole entourage. It’s harder to keep a large group together (you don’t want to be spending your time looking for who you came with!) Also, too many people will offer too many different opinions, which will be confusing, and not enjoyable at all.

Eat before the show. Not all shows offer snacks for purchase, and you don’t want to be walking around on an empty tummy! While there will be plenty of yummy samples of foods and cakes to try, this is not the place to load up your plate for a meal.

Take notes. Jot down pricing and package information, as well as your personal opinions. Is there anything about a vendors’ personality that stands out to you? Is he or she courteous and polite, or unfriendly and grumpy? Are they enjoying themselves, or do they seem to want to be somewhere else? After you get home and are sorting through that pile of flyers you’ve picked up, it will be hard to remember who was who. A few notes will help remind you who you’ll want to contact later, (and who you want to steer clear of!).

A popular portion of most bridal shows is the Fashion Show. If you’re like most brides, you’ll want to attend it, so find a seat early – at least 20-30 minutes before it starts. However, if you already have your gown, or otherwise aren’t planning on attending the fashion show, use this time to talk with the vendors you are most interested in. Things will be much more quiet and calm, and you’ll have a better chance at getting their undivided attention.

Don’t feel that you have to make a decision at the show. Sure, all of the vendors would love for you to sign on the dotted line right then, and may even offer a discount if you do. But wouldn’t you rather be a savvy shopper and take time to carefully look over everything and figure out which vendors will truly best suit the style of wedding you and your fiancé envision?

Before you decide to book someone, be very thorough. Carefully read everything (literature, samples, flyers, contract – EVERYTHING!!) before you sign and put down a deposit. Make sure what they offer is really right for your wedding vision, is what you and your fiancé really want, and that their terms are acceptable. Ask questions so there is a complete understanding between you and the vendor. You don’t want that ‘great deal’ to turn out to be a headache because you didn’t notice the "additional costs" or the "fine print" . By : Jean Neuhart

So go and enjoy yourself! It’s just a bridal show!